So much talk about relationships among Black people and what’s right and wrong. The females seem to think everything they do is fine and most men are the ones with the problems. I challenge any woman reading this to do some reflecting and identify ways in which they can improve their emotional selves. I can point to so many ways in which I was just a wack individual. And so I adjust (and sometimes apologize directly to the person) and move on.

I have to wonder how many of these women had their fathers in the house. Did they have a mother whose was held responsible for the quality and care of the house by the man who financed it all?

How many of them had families and know what families look like and what a woman’s work entails. Ask any mother; running a house with children in it is just a stressful as any ‘real’ job but with no pay and no vacation days. Do these girls know that being a wife and mother is HARD WORK? Shall someone remind these women that they volunteered for the job.

How many of these females knows what a wife is and what her role is and what it means to be in charge of a home. Your man doesn’t care about anything but for his family to be comfortable. If he’s bringing home the money; why wouldn’t she spend it properly? And if she doesn’t; how is she beneficial to his life?

How many of these females know that a man should be appreciated for his efforts, and for his financial contribution on which the survival of his family depends especially if she doesn’t work. Some Black women do need to learn how to play their position and be more of a team member.You signed up for this so why the dissent?

How many of these females realize how a man needs to be respected. Because men want to be looked up to and men have feelings and men have their own aspirations and let downs and disappointments and fears. Holy, shit. Black men are human. Fuck what you heard.

I know it’s a cliche when talking about how Black men are dating other races but have you heard some Black men say they do so because Black women are so hard, emasculating and not domestic? I’m not saying that a woman should act a certain way. I’m not saying there is a ‘proper’ way to behave but I am saying that it’s not too much for a man to want to be treated with care and consideration.

I’m not suggesting this relationship style will work for every woman that tries it. I’m just saying if you want to try something new between you and your man then why not do that and see what happens. If I can teach you how to deep throat then I can just as easily teach you how to cater to your man. What you do with this knowledge is up to you.

*wink*